Adoption vs Abortion
Within this paper, our learning team will conduct a debate between two topics with very different opposing viewpoints: adoption versus abortion. We will provide questions and answers in regard to whether or not a woman should have an abortion or put up the woman’s baby for adoption. We will provide similarities between adoption and abortion. In addition, we will give differences between adoption and abortion. We will discuss the various religious beliefs between adoption and abortion.
The negative psychological effects of adopted and unwanted children will be discussed. In addition, we will determine if abortion is a good option for some women. Many children are on waiting lists for perspective parents, and some of these children wait a long time to acquire adoptive parents. We will also provide statistics on the percentage of children who are abused by adoptive parents. Debate Topic: Adoption versus Abortion Introduction When making the decision to place a child up for adoption or to have an abortion there are many items to consider.
When weighing the pros and cons; there are many more benefits with adoption than abortion. Adoption gives a child a stable home when the birth mother feels she cannot provide such a thing. Adoption gives those who cannot have children or who want more children, the chance to be loving parents. While providing adults with a child, it is also providing the child with a loving, stable, and family environment. Different kinds of adoption that can be done: important for the birth mother, and the adopting parents to be comfortable in his or her decision.
Closed adoption in which the birth mother never sees the baby and has no contact throughout his or her lives. Open adoption is a good way for the birth mother to keep updated with the child. The adoptive parents can allow visitations or send pictures throughout the child’s life. Kinship adoption here a family member adopts and raises the child. This provides even more contact between the birth mother and child (Sex,etc. 2010). Adoption gives birth mothers another option than abortion. Bringing a child into this world and allowing a loving family to raise the child is what every mother who cannot provide should do.
When adopted children are older, they can decide whether or not to seek their biological parents and if the biological parents will accept them being found is always a chance the child takes. This allows the child to accept why his or her biological parents did put them up for adoption and gives him or her closure if needed. When deciding whether to have a child who will be put up for adoption or acquiring an abortion is important to remember to weigh pro and cons. Whereas abortion allows the mother freedom so does adoption. Whereas abortion allows teens to grow up so does adoption.
Adoption is cost free ,and sometimes the adoptive parents provide income for the mother until the baby is born and abortion can range from $500 – $2000 depending on how far along the pregnancy is (American Adoptions, 2009). A biggest con to abortion is not being able to see the child develop, which is possible when having an open adoption. Abortion may also cause depression afterwards. Some may have a difficult time getting over the fact a life was just taken because of irresponsibility and selfishness (American Adoptions, 2009).
Adoption lessens those chances because knowing that the child is in good hands and receiving what the birth mother could not gives sense of relief and right doing. Adoption versus abortion is difficult for any woman who is not ready to be a mother, and the decision can be more traumatic for some than others. Being comfortable with the decision made and understanding all consequences will provide the best outcome for both the baby and the birth mother. For many people abortion is a word that conjures up images of death, mutilation, and generally a bad feeling.
Abortion is a clean procedure that can occur through surgery or medications (Discovery Health, 2010). Many people question if it is better to make the decision of an abortion. They have to believe that the decision made was for the best. The woman could choose to have the child, and give up rights to it, and always wonder how the child is. Both decisions are difficult, and only two people can make the choice, the biological parents. Why is abortion a good option for some women? The reasons for a woman to obtain an abortion vary widely as do the ages of the women.
Up to six million pregnancies occur every year. More than half of those pregnancies not planned. Of those women who have an unplanned pregnancy 50% were using a form of contraception when they conceived. About 74% of women surveyed who have had an abortion said that to have a baby at that time in their lives would dramatically change their live. Another 48% said they did not want to be a single mother, or there were problems in their relationships. Interfering with work was another 38% and the same percentage for education. 32% said they could not care for another child.
A large 73% of women surveyed said they could not afford to have a baby (Stacey, 2010). A point of interest is a small 1% of women said the abortion was because of a forced sexual encounter (Westside Pregnancy Clinic, 2009). For whatever reason a woman chooses to have an abortion, women have her reasons. Looking at the numbers, this is relatively small in comparison of how many babies are born each year. However, if every woman who opted for an abortion could not have one, and had to carry the child to full term, this would mean 1. 3 million infants would be born each year to fill the orphanages (Stacey, 2010).
To make women have a baby when they could not physically, emotionally, or financially care for the child should not be mandatory. Every woman has a right to choose what is right for her. What are some good reasons for abortions? • Though women have a hard time choosing abortion as an option for unwanted pregnancies, they have been making the choice for a long time. • Ultimately, she is the one who would be going through the actual “Labor” of continuing pregnancy, delivering a baby, bringing the baby up, parenting the child, in addition to other obligations she has to do her daily life.
To get it done with little or no help from the partner and families needs a well-balanced body and mind. • Nothing called pro-choice and pro-life. Both ideologies meet at one common point e. g. Pro-Life-Life of the baby and Life of the mother. Life of the baby ultimately depends on mother’s health and it is best to allow the mother to choose for her, when she wants a baby. • Whereas we argue about the mental well being of a woman, how do others get to decide what would be more traumatic to the woman, abortion or, ‘childbirth and the unending list of duties waiting to be accomplished Maisie, 2010).
Many children on waiting lists for prospective parents, why is the wait so long for some of these children? Adoption can be a long, tedious, and expensive process. For some adopting parents the child requirements are specific, such as a Caucasian female infant. This could take years to find the right child. Many children older, a different race or not the correct gender could sit in an orphanage for a long time. The adoptive parents must meet strict requirements before adopting a child.
This often deters some prospective adoption parents from going through the process because of the invasive way the backgrounds checked (Marchick, 2010). As the prospective parents are going through the tedious process of adoption many children sit, wait, and hope. Children waiting for a family begin to have a sense of loss or separation. Many children often believe a sense of abandonment even after they had been adopted. The psychological effects of a child waiting for adoption can be deeply set into an older child. A person has to wonder if a child waiting in an orphanage for years is better than adopting out quickly.
Children the ages of 10 and above have no one who will care for them because of one issue, or another (Unknown Author, 2010). To bring 1. 3 million more children into the world when there are children currently who cannot be adopted would be cruel (Stacey, 2010). What are the negative psychological effects on adopted and unwanted children? Pro-lifers believe every child has a right to life but do not consider the quality of life that child will have either by choice or circumstance. The consequence of a child knowing he or she unwanted by the people supposed to want him or her above all, is a scar carried for life.
More than half a million children in this country live in foster homes. It is unrealistic to think that an adopted baby is going to a loving home when in actuality it is 50/50. Many people adopt or foster children just for the money; children bounced around from family to family, deepening their abandonment while suffering other abuses. Abortion should not be used as birth control but one has to realize the implications of being an unwanted child. Many studies have been done that focus on the psychological effects of being an adoptee or an unwanted child.
Statistics show that unwanted births are a major factor contributing to the murder of infants and children and to child abuse in general. A study of 37 infants killed within the first 24 hours after birth, he found that 83% of the victims unwanted by the mother (Slaughter of the Innocents, Dr. Resnick, 1977). Females who have unwelcome babies have inferior interactions with their children, at times this is not just reserved for the unwanted child. Because of the detachment of the mother this develops into social and developmental problems for the child.
The child is reaching out for attention and acceptance anyway possible. All parts of development are affected negatively, for example, sense of self-worth, behavior traits, learning and work-related achievement, psychological, and personal associations. Adopted children in the United States are the only citizens who cannot know their true names and the names of the birth parents. What Percent of children put up for adoption is abused? Finding statistics for abused children in adoption and foster care is virtually impossible because the numbers change frequently and most cases go unreported.
In Ohio, there are more than 3,500 children waiting to be adopted. Even though adoption can be thought of as a loving choice, it is also a lucrative business earning approximately 1. 4 billion dollars a year; confidential adoptions are roughly $60,000. The child’s wellbeing is subsequent to the money that can be acquired. Sadly, there is a valid unspoken possibility that these children will be physically, sexually, and mentally abused. For instance, seven-year-old Nathanial Carver was beaten to death by his adopted parents; his body had nearly 80 external injuries – 20 of them to his head August 19, 2009.
A 4-year-old girl adoptee suffered bruises, welts, cuts and burns to her face and upper body from scalding hot bath water February 21, 2010. The time to increase society’s consciousness to the abuse in the adoption system is now; these are children not merchandise. The lesson to ascertain unwanted pregnancies provide a platform for abuse and neglect, which in turn warps the child who will eventually be part of society. People need to meet requirements to drive or carry a gun, but anyone can make and mold a life; it is time for that to change. Is Adoption the Heroic Choice?
Women who make adoption plans for their children are heroes. In fact, they may be among the most heroic people in our society. Few people place the needs of others so far ahead of their own needs. A birth mother, who makes an adoption plan for her child, makes, if not the ultimate sacrifice for her child, certainly one, which few of us would have the courage to make. A birth mother makes an adoption plan because she loves her baby and wants to provide more for her baby than she herself can provide. This is not because she is a bad person or an unfit parent, far from it.
In fact she realizes the limitations of what she can realistically provide for her child. She makes the most difficult decision of her life; allowing another person the opportunity to parent her child, to love her child, and to have a relationship with her child; which she knows that she can only dream. Unfortunately, in our society, women who choose to abort their babies receive more support and encouragement than those who make an adoption plan. Fully one half of the American public believes that a woman has an absolute right to abort her child.
In fact, many of those same people would use force, if necessary, to ensure that a woman has a right to abort her child. They would campaign against a political figure who did not support abortion, and would try to block appointments to the United States Supreme Court or even lobby against cabinet nominees. If they believed that the person may try to curtail abortion in our country (Kirsh, 1993). What are Christian Beliefs Regarding Abortion Issues? Christians divided on the issue of Abortion. The polls show that a majority of people have reservations about both the extreme pro-life and pro-choice positions.