Longing for Love: A Comparative Essay Jack Ettlinger ENG4U1 Ms. Palka July 18, 2010. Longing For Love A Comparative Essay By Jack Ettlinger In the song I Just Haven’t Met You Yet (IJHMYY) written and composed by Michael Buble, themes such as love, optimism, and loneliness are all are evident. These themes are also found in the song Love Song For No One (LSFNO), written and composed by John Mayer, but optimism is replaced by pessimism. Both of these songs are about a man longing for love; however, in the first, the man is optimistic and hopeful, while in the second he is getting anxious and a little doubtful.
The way that the themes are portrayed are both similar and different in that they are about love, optimism/pessimism and loneliness, but each song has differences on how the themes are viewed. In I Just Haven’t Met You Yet the theme of love is evident, of course, and the song focuses around it. Just by reading the lyrics you get a warm fuzzy feeling, and that is what love is supposed to bring. But what is love really? Is it one specific thing? Or is it just a nebulous word that is used to describe the feeling two people get when they think about each other or spend time together?
Love is an enigma by it’s very nature; each and every person has his or her own opinion of what it is, and it may mean different things to each, but certainly, love is what Michael Buble is feeling and discussing in his song. If everyone interprets love differently than it is possible to also make someone angry or upset, as it does in Love Song For No One. In Love Song For No One love is embodied in a very different way than the way that Buble portrayed it. With Mayer’s song, he chose to go down the route that many people do when love is not going their way – the route to sadness, frustration and impatience.
The song focuses around these feelings. Even just the title captures what the song’s overall feeling is. This guy is simply getting tired of waiting and starting to believe that the girl of his dreams may never come. In literature, music and entertainment of all kinds, love is often accompanied with warm, happy feelings, but there can also be upset. It all really depends on the point of view or reference of the person who is speaking in the piece, whatever it may be. People who have not found the love they are looking for yet in their life are one of two things; optimistic or regretful.
When you read the lyrics of LSFNO you don’t get a feeling of optimism. Regret fills your brain. You are left with the impression that love can be a bitch, because sometimes you don’t find it. The lyrics, “I’m tired of being alone, so hurry up and get here,” really leaves the reader with a sense that he is not happy, but filled with despair. There is a line in the song that clearly states how he is feeling, “I’m jaded, I hate it. ” That pretty much sums it up. The main theme in Buble’s IJHMYY is love, but the undertone feeling of this love is one of optimism.
Lines such as, “I know that we can be so amazing,” and “I know someday that it’ll all turn out” make the reader understand that Buble is still on the hopeful side of love. He believes that it will happen for him, in fact he knows it. To him, love really is an issue of trust and Buble simply trusts that love and the girl of his dreams are coming for him. He just has to meet her first. Mayer is a pessimistic “sad sack” in his song about love. The repeated chorus line “I’m tired of being alone, so hurry up and get here” echoes his yearning. After all the crushes are faded, and all my wishful thinking was wrong” leaves the listener with the feeling that Mayer is unhappy, desolate and despondent. He needs love, but he really doubts that it is coming. His pessimistic attitude is overruling his belief that love will ever find him. The last theme to discuss is loneliness. So often, an artist’s life is reflected in their art, their songs. Mayer is a lonely guy; in his life he has gone from girl to girl, searching for love…and that search and his lonely spirit is evident in his music, especially in Love Song For No One.
Mayer says that he has been, “searching all my days just to find you not sure who I’m looking for,” and the listener feels his exhaustion, sadness and most of all, his loneliness. In his song, Michael Buble is clearly lonely, but his loneliness in motivating him to persevere in his life, and to find the one that will complete him. The lyric “ I know someday that it’ll all turn out, you’ll make me work, so we can work to work it out” shows this. He knows that the love of his life is out there and that she is coming, and therefore his loneliness feels temporary. There is, in his mind, an end in sight.
He understands that he has to be patient: “I might have to wait, I’ll never give up, I guess it’s half timing and the other half’s luck. ” Buble trusts that love is coming for him. He knows he won’t have to be lonely for too long. The songs, I Just Haven’t Met you Yet, and Love Song For No One both focus on the theme of love, and at first glance, can be perceived as very similar. But by dissecting the lyrics and looking more closely at the undertones and messages of both songs, we find that they are actually almost opposite in their approach to the mystery of love.
As an ending note, John Mayer is still girlfriend-less, while, as a true example of ‘life imitating art,” Michael Buble is engaged to the beautiful model who played the girl of his dreams in the video for his hit song. I guess he really did meet her after all. I Just Haven’t Met You Yet-Lyrics I’m not surprised, not everything lasts I’ve broken my heart so many times, I stopped keeping track Talk myself in, I talk myself out I get all worked up, then I let myself down I tried so very hard not to lose it I came up with a million excuses I thought, I thought of every possibility And I know someday that it’ll all turn out
You’ll make me work, so we can work to work it out And I promise you, kid, that I give so much more than I get I just haven’t met you yet I might have to wait, I’ll never give up I guess it’s half timing, and the other half’s luck Wherever you are, whenever it’s right You’ll come out of nowhere and into my life And I know that we can be so amazing And, baby, your love is gonna change me And now I can see every possibility And somehow I know that it’ll all turn out You’ll make me work, so we can work to work it out And I promise you, kid, I give so much more than I get I just haven’t met you yet They say all’s fair
In love and war But I won’t need to fight it We’ll get it right and we’ll be united And I know that we can be so amazing And being in your life is gonna change me And now I can see every single possibility And someday I know it’ll all turn out And I’ll work to work it out Promise you, kid, I’ll give more than I get Than I get, than I get, than I get Oh, you know it’ll all turn out And you’ll make me work so we can work to work it out And I promise you kid to give so much more than I get Yeah, I just haven’t met you yet I just haven’t met you yet Oh, promise you, kid To give so much more than I get I said love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love (I just haven’t met you yet) Love, love, love, love Love, love I just haven’t met you yet Love Song For No One-Lyrics Staying home alone on a Friday Flat on the floor looking back On old love Or lack thereof After all the crushes are faded And all my wishful thinking was wrong I’m jaded I hate it I’m tired of being alone So hurry up and get here So tired of being alone So hurry up and get here Get here Searching all my days just to find you I’m not sure who I’m looking for I’ll know it When I see you Until then, I’ll hide in my bedroom Staying up all night just to write A love song for no one
I’m tired of being alone So hurry up and get here So tired of being alone So hurry up and get here I could have met you in a sandbox I could have passed you on the sidewalk Could I have missed my chance And watched you walk away? Oh no way I could have met you in a sandbox I could have passed you on the sidewalk Could I have missed my chance And watched you walk away? I’m tired of being alone So hurry up and get here I’m so tired of being alone So hurry up and get here oh yeah I’m tired of being alone So hurry up and get here I’m so tired of being alone So hurry up and get here You’ll be so good You’ll be so good for me