How to End a Relationship
Often times we find ourselves in a relationship that we don’t know how to let go. It sometimes is caused by emotions or attachments to the other person, and the fear of failure. However, no matter how hard it can be it is best to let go than to hold onto something that is already gone. The first step in deciding if you are going to end a relationship is to make sure that you are 100% sure that you want to end it.
If you end a relationship on a bad note or when you are in the middle of an argument it could come back to haunt you as a mistake and you don’t want to have that feeling. Make sure to be in a calm and peaceful state of mind. If you are unable to have a conversation with your partner, avoid bringing up a breakup. Failure is one of the worse feelings a person deals with, and especially in relationships.
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It is a bad misconception to feel that one has failed at a relationship because of it ending, when really it is letting go to have better opportunities It is best put as the end of one chapter so we can move to the next, and it can seem that there are many chapters to the story, but they all lead to the great ending. I personally have been on this road a few times, and I have said that I failed seeing as how the relationship ended, however that feeling only lasted until I had let go. The best thing for both people in a relationship is to be honest with one another.
If a person is staying in the relationship in hopes that one day it will lead to what they have been waiting for, we need to remember that not one person can change another person. This is a big mistake in some relationships, most times females stay in relationships that have ended but because they have the hopes their partner can change to who they want, they stay. No matter how hard it is on them. The fear of not knowing what will come next is a fear that I have dealt with in the past. It is hard moving forward without knowing what is in store for one person.
When in a relationship no matter how the situation is, it can be easier to stay in that instead of moving forward. The key is to remember that things happen for a reason and no matter how hard or scary the unknown can be, it is better than staying in an unhappy relationship. Social pressures can play a role in ending a relationship. Some feel that if they leave the person they are with that others in the community will judge them or look at them as though they gave up on the relationship. For this reason they find it easier to “save face” and stay with their partners, no matter how unhappy they really are.
Don’t let what others think of you cloud your judgment, do what makes you happy, even if at first it doesn’t feel right. In the end it will pay off and you will find the happiness that you deserve. Privacy is very important when you finally decide to tell the person who you are dating that you want to end things. Nobody wants to be told in a public place or in front of other people. It can be embarrassing and have a negative outcome from the person you are telling. Make sure that you are in a neutral spot for the both of you and that it is only the two of you.
Avoid using cliches and saying the typical “It’s not you, it’s me” that is overrated and makes no sense. I feel that it is like saying they shouldn’t feel bad, even though they are going to if they feel they invested a lot of time into the relationship. It also doesn’t explain why you want to end the relationship. Be prepared for the worse thing that can happen when breaking up with someone. The person you are breaking up with could possibly get upset or angry, but make sure to stay calm and try to keep them calm.
If needed tell the person that you need to go and if needed they can call you if they want to. This can help to avoid an argument and it can also show them that you are serious so that there isn’t a reason for them to think that it is just a break, but that it is for sure an end to the relationship. When ending things with your partner, I feel that it is important to not leave it as an open book, if they have questions be kind enough to explain why as it can take longer to let go if left open. Their emotional state may cause you to feel bad, but remember to stay your ground.
Yes, it can be hard to leave someone that you care about, but remember that no matter what there are reasons to end the relationship and you aren’t happy. It is important to remember to not give mixed messages to the person, this can be caused if you tell them that you want to end it, but then react to their emotions and try to comfort them. It will hurt, but that isn’t your fault. It will take time to get over it, even if you are the one who dumped the other person. You still have an emotional connection, but made the realization that it just wasn’t going to work and you had to let go. Be strong and remember that you are worth more than settling and you will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.