Love vs. Friendship
My best friends are the most tremendous friends I could ever ask for. I can talk to them about anything, or not say anything at all. We support each other in what the other does. We can be apart for so long but when we see each other again, it’s like they never left. I think that friendship is more essential than romantic love. You have the comforts that only a best friend can give you, the care and concern from friends, and even if you lose or grow apart from a friend, it can help you become a better friend. I found this quote about best friends, “‘Best friend’ isn’t just a name. A best friend is someone who’s there for you, no matter what.
You can trust them, with anything and everything. Best friends share tears and laughs, almost like their emotions are intertwined. Most importantly, you can always count on a best friend.
” One of my best friends, Kevin, has been there for me through the depressing times as well as the joyous times in life. He’s been my best friend since 4th grade, I trust him more than anyone. I can talk to him about anything. Even after he moved away, he’s still there for me when I need him. He’s helped me through a lot. Another one of my best friends, Ivie, has been my friend through tough times also.
I’ve been there for her when she needs me. For a while, I felt as if she was one of my only friends and I was grateful for her friendship. We’ve been there for each other through the tears as well as the laughs of life. I can also talk to her about anything. Without my best friends, I don’t know where I would be in life. A quote by Henri Nouwen says, “When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.
The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. ” Sometimes, you can never know what a friend is experiencing or what to say to them when they’re sorrowful. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to just be there for them, just to listen. Kevin and Ivie have done that for me many times. More times than I can count, after I tell Kevin about a situation, he gives me impeccable advice on how to handle it.
I’ve been there for Ivie to vent to me, whether it is she’s dismal or annoyed. Most of the time, I never know what to tell her, so I just sit there and listen. Although, that usually ends up being what she needs. Not advice or kind words, just someone to listen and try to understand how she’s feeling. If my friends didn’t care for me, then Kevin and Ivie wouldn’t always listen to my struggles. If I didn’t care for my friends, I wouldn’t listen to their struggles. “Rare as is true love, true friendship is rarer. ” says Jean de La Fontaine.
Although, in life, we become devoid of friends because of something irrational or we grow apart from them, it can be a heartbreaking. You trusted this person and then they left you without an explanation. From my experience, it may be sad, but it’s a good thing in a way. You learn that you need to change somehow and become a better friend. Maybe you lost a friend because you didn’t listen to them or you didn’t communicate efficiently, you quarreled with them over something irrational, or even having to choose between friends.
I’ve lost many friends, probably because I never really saw them outside of school, when school ended we didn’t really stay in touch, and I even had to choose between my two best friends, at the time. I’ve learned from losing friends that you have to communicate, hangout with them outside of school; without that the friendship fades. I hope that I have finally found my true friends. I think that friendship is more essential than romantic love. You have the comforts that only a best friend can give you, the care and concern from friends, and even if you lose or grow apart from a friend, it can help you become a better friend.
My best friends have been there for me through everything. I don’t know what I would do without them. I’ve cared for friends, in return, they cared for me. I’ve lost friends, but I’ve gained the best friends I could ask for. I realize though that not everyone has friends like I do. I think if everyone were nice to one another as well as befriending others, we could all have best friends who make our lives wonderful, perhaps even more worth living. Just like my best friends have made my life.