Similarities and differences between male and female interaction
Similarities & differences between male and female interaction in politeness devices Different genders have so much dissimilarity in conversation by knowing the way of how they apply their characters while interacting in communication. The major differences in communication style between genders are for instance, men speak in a firm way which is direct to the point whereas women express indirectly. (Basow & Rubenfield, 2003).
From the scene 08:08-08:18 in episode three of season one, Riley who is Ben’s closest female friend, tells Ben that the girl who he is dating, Cassie, is very special but Riley means it in another way which is ‘I hate that girl’. She declares her displeasure feelings by being sarcastic in words instead of being straight forward to convey the message. On the other hand, Riley likes Ben since high school but she denies that she is in love with Ben at the scene 16:40-16:44 in the same episode. In these cases, women express indirectly to prevent issues.(Basow & Rubenfield, 2003). Unlike men, they express in a direct way to solve problem like how Ben and Tuck confronted each other at the scene 08:46-09:28 in episode seven of the first season while they were fighting for a girl named Ava. Men tend to be aggressive and harsh when it comes to a contradiction. (Maltz & Borker, 1982; Wood, 1996; Mason, 1994). At the scene 09:50-11:09 in episode four of season one, Riley’s date with Jack was interrupted by the two brothers who barged into her place to avoid their mum.
It is quite awkward and inconvenient with her friends around in the house during a date but Riley uses ‘please’ in asking them to be quick in changing baby’s diaper and feeding. From this view, women tend be more polite than men in asking favor. (Lakoff, 1975). Due to men’s certain level of aggressiveness, they tend to swear more and use curse words out of conscious but women, the softer types are the other way round. At the scene 21:04-21:10 in the first episode of first season, Ben says ‘holy crap’ unconsciously when he cries.
At the scene 4:40 -04:53 in episode five of first season, Bonnie says ‘oh my god’ and Ben says ‘I swear’. At the scene 00:08 in the first episode of Baby Daddy season one, Ben asks his brother if that place he is staying is good for his brother, demanding a yes or a no answer from his brother and in scene 03:19-03:22 of episode two in season one, Ben’s mother asks him if he had worked out a plan to take care Emma both these conversation is a closed interrogation way of asking a question expecting a yes or no answer to it. ( Huddleston,1988) Nevertheless, at scene 00:47-00:54 in the first episode and first season of it, Ben tells his roommate and brother that nothing going to stop them from staying together and having a good time, whereas, at scene 08:17-08:21 of the same episode and season, Riley states to the boys that she realized she should have given them a list before sending them to buy things for baby Emma. Both these speech is classified as declaratives as it is typically used for giving information in a statement form. (Kempson, 1977) Next to that, in scene 01:24-01:26 of episode one, season one, Ben asks where did the baby come from to his brother and roommate.
While, in scene 10:18-10:20 of episode one, Riley ask question to know who said Ben had no discernible skills. This way of questioning is classified as open interrogation as it is information seeking question, in which it will contain the where, who, whom, which, whose, when, why or how. (Huddleston, 1988) Lastly, at scene 01:33-01:34 in the same episode and season, Ben instructs his brother and roommate to make sure the baby to stay there until he return and in scene 03:54-03:59 of episode two in season one, Ben’s mother warns and commands Tucker and Wheeler to take care of the baby and to make sure nothing happens to her.
These speeches of Ben and his mother are classified as imperatives in the speech devices, imperatives are directness in speech of command or request of action from one to another. (Kempson, 1977) These are the similarities man and woman share in the politeness devices of communication and language. Reference