Working Mom vs Stay at Home Mom
Can being a Home Maker be viewed as a career? Central Idea: A home maker plays a vital role in the family setting and in society. There are Choices to be made when you become a Parent. Just like almost all newly married couples. You have goals of what’s next in your lives together. Finish college and then get that perfect well paying job. Well that is exactly what I had in mind. Wow, what would happen next would be life changing. We added a little baby boy to our family.
I remember telling my boss, “I promise I’m not going to quit my job”. The day I gave birth and I saw that precious baby; I knew I could not leave him to go back to work. How could we make this work? Many factors go into decisions of this magnitude. Needless to say, I have been fortunate to experience being a homemaker also know as a stay at home mom for 19 years and still counting. When you define the term “Homemaker” it refers to an adult member of a household who stays at home to perform household services, as to working outside the home. For many women or men this is a dream come true.
When you have children at home and you are able to stay home you often find your work more rewarding. It’s a known fact that the dream of staying at home is not for everyone. Some women feel that if they are not in the workforce they do not feel important. They may feel that their identity is not their own. Homemakers provide many aspects to the family. Values are taught and observed by the child which usually sets the foundation for a well balanced childhood then adulthood. They are moms first who love and nurture they are educators, nurses, psychologist, pharmacists, and givers of discipline.
There are times when the stay at home mom may feel that her self worth is not appreciated as much as someone with a professional career. Negative stereotypes have been developed and messages relayed that moms who stay at home is not work. This past week we heard of a controversy between stay at home moms and career driven women. are at work 7days a week and many of their efforts are often overlooked. In 2010 the census showed 5 million stay at home moms which was down from 5. 1 million in 2009 (census. gov). This is a possible result in the economic hardship in the past couple of years.
As far as my career goals that I had before children, they haven’t disappeared they just became secondary for me. As my children got older I did decide to go back to school and obtain my LPN licenses. I also am a certified Pharmacy Technician. Even with these professional licenses, I have still chosen to remain a stay at home mom. As I stated earlier I still have goals they are just not top priority at this point in my life. I guess you can say I have obtained my professional licenses for emergency purposes. If something was to happen and my husband was unable to work, we would have a back up plan.
There are many reasons why women choose to stay at home: * Their own boss * Structure days as they see needed * Availability to meet the needs of their family when needed. Reasons why some women don’t want to stay at home: * Fear of being board * Being around the kids too much * Decreased self esteem. In the 19 years that I have been able to stay at home I have never gotten board, I always have plenty to do. My work is a challenge but it is so rewarding. If I were given the opportunity to do the last 19 years of my live over I would not change the decision to be a stay at home mom.
This has been my career and the most rewarding one for me. I have had different phases of my experience. One of my most enjoyable roles that I have in this phase of my stay at home career is my farm. I have started a business, I work on the farm while my kids are at school and during the summer, I am able to work directly with my children and husband in our cattle and hay operation. This for me would not be possible if I had an outside job. Now that my children are older 19 and 15 it is rewarding to see the work ethics that have been instilled in them. Many stay at home moms launch at home business.
Even though they may work within the home they are still flexible to take care of family needs as they arise. Plus it builds the stay at home mom self esteem. In conclusion, the choice is up to the individual person. It may be right for some and not for others. I do feel that a stay at home mom can be considered a career. I may not receive payment for the jobs that I do but the greatest payment or blessing in this case is the investment that I have made to my children and the respect that I have from my husband and two boys for the choice that was made.